From Gemma Hartley, the journalist who ignited a national conversation on emotional labor, comes Fed Up, a bold dive into the unpaid, invisible work women have shouldered for too longand an impassioned vision for creating a better future for us all.Day in, day out, women anticipate and manage the needs of others. In relationships, we initiate the hard conversations. At home,...
|Title||:||Fed Up: Emotional Labor, Women, and the Way Forward|
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Fed Up: Emotional Labor, Women, and the Way Forward Reviews
This packs a punch. It's a really PERSONAL book, which was fascinating, because it's also a really universal book. It's also super practical towards the end; I think I have a better idea of how to broach the subject of emotional labor with my partner, which feels really refreshing. If Hartley's original essay was the distress call, this book is her follow-up, her answering rescue. I'm super glad I read it, and I really highly recommend it for heteronormative couples, especially. (Both partners i ...more
Fed Up. Why do women subconsciously take on the emotional labour of the home? Is it years of deep-seated patriarchy? Or do we chose to be in control?
In 2017 Gemma Hartley wrote an article in Harper's Bazaar which quickly went viral. 'Women Aren't Nags - We're Just Fed Up' was all about emotional labour, which was a new term for me to hear. It's basically all the unpaid, unnoticed work completed by women to keep the home running smoothly and everyone happy and content.
My first reaction to Fed Up, ...more
Oof. Stretching an essay that went viral to an entire book was a bit too ambitious for this one. I felt half of the book was just repeating itself (we get it, dads/husbands don’t clean or take care of kids as much as women do, no need to spell out every example) and the anecdotes got repetitive and not very insightful. I barely got through the 250 pages of this one. The point she makes is very important and the mission was noble but I wish it had gone deeper, particularly in terms of at the work ...more
Man this book sucked. I was so ready as this is a very important topic within feminism but she quoted Sheryl Sandberg in the opening chapter and I rolled my eyes. Really? I just feel more research was needed into this - it was all very personal and poorly supported when there is great information about this topic out there! The conversations around REAL emotional labour are actually much more in depth than this book provided. She seems like a first year feminist theory student who got a book dea ...more
I read this about a month ago and took some time to reflect and process my thoughts...and really understand why I felt so incomplete after reading this.
Some parts where she describes the burden of emotional labor are so infuriatingly accurate they made my blood boil. But what she fails to consider are the important dynamics of economics. She has some “fair trade” assumption between husband and wife. But the economics of traditional gender roles worked out because both parties contributed to the ...more
I find the words ‘fed up’ particularly evocative. This may sound sexist, but I think women are pushed to this point much more than men, simply because we (females) take it upon ourselves to make everyone around us ‘comfortable’, whether we realize it or not. It’s not because we think it’s fun, or because we are particularly good it, it’s because that’s what society expects of us. We are the caregivers, regardless of whether we work outside the home as well, thus holding layers of invisible respo ...more
Rating and review to come.
Eh, it's okay. It's frustratingly heterosexual and focuses far more on the dynamics within a relationship between a man and a woman ( which makes sense given the scope I suppose...). However it does show an inadequate analysis of same sex couples and doesn't move beyond acknowledging that they/we also have difficulty dividing emotional labor- but supposedly find it easier than heterosexual couples due to the lack of gender roles. It fails to acknowledge that they/we often divide up the emotional ...more