Abby Ellin was shocked to learn that her fianc was leading a secret life. But as she soon discovered, the world is full of people who aren't what they seem. From Abby Ellin's first date with the Commander, she was caught up in a whirlwind. Within six months he'd proposed, and they'd moved in together. But soon, his exotic stories of international espionage began to unravel...
|Title||:||Duped: Double Lives, False Identities, and the Con Man I Almost Married|
|Number of Pages||:||238 pages|
Duped: Double Lives, False Identities, and the Con Man I Almost Married Reviews
3.5 Stars I loved the narrator’s voice. Non-fiction - interesting topic.
I was listening to this as everything about AJ Finn/Dan Mallory came to the surface and couldn't stop thinking "of course."
Ellin's story begins with being duped by a man called The Commander. He seemed too good to be true and, ultimately, he was. He played her, as well as numerous women before her, and that's where the book gets really great. Ellin digs into what makes some people choose to develop false identities and what it is that makes others believe it.
I admit to being someone who is ext ...more
Author Abby Ellin starts off her book by telling the story of how she almost married a con man in the Navy. Apparently all her investigative journalism skills were in hibernation during the time she dated and was engaged to the man; since he told her story after story that made him sound like a superhero and a secret agent. Yes, she had doubts, doubts that were shouted out by "lonliness, desire, compromise, love, his Big Life and his upstandingness". Not trying to be overly suspicious here, but ...more
"He who permits himself to tell a lie once, finds it much easier to do it a second time and third time till at length it becomes habitual." - Thomas Jefferson
Abby Ellin was duped by a man called "The Commander". He told her that he was a doctor with a secret job, he worked for the government and could not give her details about what his job ensued. He went on secret missions and sent her back amazing photos of his time fighting espionage overseas. The only problem, he was not who he said he was, ...more
3.5. I liked this book more than I thought I would. I had been expecting something more along the lines of scams a la Madoff (and he is discussed), but Ellin more details pathological liars, personality traits and explores interesting questions like non-consensual sex as sexual assault (since the consent was not informed consent), how victims are viewed and truth in our society.
Surprisingly captivating! This book had me turning the pages well after midnight and well after my eyes wanted to close. The author tells the stories of duplicitous individuals in a fascinating and engaging manner. I was hooked form page one. I appreciated the scientific anecdotes alongside the enthralling narratives. Five stars.
Don't buy this book
I found this book to be boring and a complete waste of time. Save your money and attention. Don't buy this book.
I really like the first part of the book, where she told her story. The rest I wanted to get through so I dedicated an afternoon and made it through with a bath and a power nap. These kinds of stories need to be told and I applaud her for telling hers.